Monday, 16 November 2009

The Miracle of Life

How simply amazing and wonderful is the miracle of life? Today I found out that my daughter is carrying a daughter! Just thinking about that has reminded me of when I was carrying my children and the joy I felt; the wonder at that little person growing inside of me. I was often totally overcome by the magic of it all and even now, cannot find words to convey the depth of my feelings with each of my pregnancies. The intensity of the love I felt towards that little life developing and the times I would spend totally engrossed with my thoughts about what was happening, and now the cycle of life continues. My first born is carrying her first; I love you Cx.

Then, to the opposite extreme, my little one (age 7) went to bed and had an upsetting few minutes at the thought of death!! What prompted this I doubt I will ever know although he is quite intense at times so it could have just struck him that the opposite of birth is death and so he questioned his own mortality....??

My middle child is also questioning I think although his thoughts are more along the line of how life can be so unfair; he's almost 18! For those of us who have come through this stage and lived to tell the tale, we can empathise. He has yet to find his place in society, his niche, his foothold, so life is difficult and frustrating.

Although I don't think any of my children consciously realise it, they are all in a fantastic position in so many ways. Apart from the obvious of having their health etc, they all question and analyse things yet they don't realise how important this skill is and where it could take them. Some people never question anything. They just accept what life throws at them, often stopping to complain and moan but never thinking they have the option or the power to change things.

We can all change whatever we want in life anytime we want, we just have to do it. We have to stop worrying about the 'Whatifs' and instead work out 'what do I need to do.' If you want to change your current situation or something in your life that you are not happy about, don't sit there moaning about it, do something about it!

Before you know it you could be faced with the questions of a 7 year old so don't be like a teenager and sit around frustrated! Don't wait for life to pass you by before you realise that all the while you had the power inside of you to change things, you just let the 'Whatifs' dominate. Be like this little life waiting to be born ~ full of optimism, hope and wonder at the possibilities open to you. Change the things you are not happy with and live. Get as much enjoyment out of life as you can, you just know it will be worth it!

Have fun, be creative, start from within.


Friday, 13 November 2009

Fabulous Friday!

Hope you are all having a funtastic fabulous Friday! How about we add another 'F' to that ~ fearless. Are you being fearless? If not, what one fearless thing can you do today? Is there something you have been putting off doing because you have built some fear up as to the consequences of your actions? As long as it isn't anything illegal or something that will harm another living entity, what is stopping you? Go ahead, be fearless, just do it!!

Easier said than done?? Not really. We build up a huge resistance to things in a way that is so totally unecessary. Fear does not exist outside of the head! Think about it, can we touch it? Does it have a shape or form that we can actually physically see? It is nothing more than a word that we attach emotions to and guess what, we can change our emotions anytime we want to!

Be bold, be brave and have a fun filled fearless weekend!

Be happy, be creative, start from within.


Wednesday, 11 November 2009

I want to start today with a big thank you to Charrise McCrorey who quoted Shel Silverstein in her blog. I had never heard of this person before but was impressed with what Charrise quoted so had a look at his work. Immediately liking what I read in the biography, I had to look further and found myself drawn to reading the following poem first:


Last night, while I lay thinking here,
some Whatifs crawled inside my ear
and pranced and partied all night long
and sang their same old Whatif song:

I'm going to leave it there, if you want to read the rest of the poem you can find it in print or a popular search engine will no doubt assist!

The point is we ALL have, or we have all had, 'Whatifs' that we let into our heads and we allow them to stop us from moving forward in our lives. In practically ever single case the 'Whatifs' are totally pointless and do nothing to serve us positively; all they do is hold us back. They are another form of fear that we allow to permeate our consciousness and then use as an excuse to not do something. 'Whatifs' are negative energy, they serve no positive purpose so do not fool yourselves that they are safety valves and are there to save you from something; they are only there to stop you. If we listened to every 'Whatif' that ever entered our heads, we would never do anything!! It wouldn't be safe to leave the house never mind drive a car or board a plane!

It always fascinates me how people apply things like 'Whatifs' at specific moments and to particular events, sometimes without actually being consciously aware of what they are doing and at other times, very aware I think.........

So what are the 'Whatifs' you are using as excuses to not move forward in your life? Be consciously aware over the next week (at least) of any 'Whatifs' that creep into your thoughts and then work out what the real fear is that you are not consciously facing. Once you identify your fears and 'call them,' they loose some of the hold and free you up so you can work through them. Write the 'Whatifs' down and look at them realistically. Now how scary do they look? Or how ridiculous.....?

Have fun, be creative, start from within.


Friday, 6 November 2009

Hi Everyone,

Well we have moved very swiftly from Halloween to Bonfire night and no doubt the fireworks will be exploding all weekend.

This got me to thinking, what sets a spark going in your life? What ignites your fire and lights the sky in your world?

Focusing on this is another way to raise your vibrational energy and get the feel good endorphins flowing. You put yourself in a better place, are more open and accepting of others and life, you may even start to smile and see the lighter side of a lot of things.

One of my favourite quotes that I regularly put at the end of my emails is, "Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." Howard Thurman
I noticed the super coach Steve Chandler added this at the end of his blog at the beginning of the month. Reading Steve's work is helping me to ignite the sparks in my life so a huge thank you going out to Steve.

So think about it, what ignites your fire? What makes you come alive? What are you waiting for...? Go do it................!!

Have fun; be creative; start from within.


Thursday, 5 November 2009

Just a quick post as it's Thursday so I'm off to do my radio show very soon :-) but it's been on my mind recently and I wanted to mention it ~ the language we use, or even more precisely the words we choose to use.

Quite often, in fact probably more often than not, people do not realise the importance of the words they use when they communicate and the affect they not only have on other people but the affect they are having on themselves.

Take in particular the word 'hate' ~ it gets banded around in today's society so effortlessly and with the same glib attitude as though people were saying 'nice'! In fact, it is an extremely heavy word and loaded with negativity. It is a word I am working very hard to ban from my diction and from that of my children, particularly the youngest before he gets overly fond of using it. I think it is starting to work from a comment he made yesterday :-)
We banned 'stupid' (something you should never call anyone) amongst others and he takes great delight in telling people what a naughty word that is and I'm hoping for similar results with hate.

In the majority of cases it is used totally in the wrong context. What people really mean when they throw it out is 'I really do not like' or 'I totally detest...' or 'that really is awful' etc etc but it really isn't a case of 'hating' something.

More on words, the power of and how they are mis-used in the future. Right now, a studio awaits......

have fun, be creative, start from within.