Friday, 30 October 2009

"Energy flows where Attention goes..." so what are you focusing your attention on and is it something positive?? If it's worrying about something negative you need to change your focus as all you are doing is encouraging more of the negative into your life.

It takes a little practice but not that much really when you get into the swing of it. Just be very aware of what is going on in your head. If it isn't positive, change it and focus on something that is positive. Every time you realise your mind has wandered back onto something that isn't buzzing with positive vibes, re-focus. It doesn't matter what you focus on, it could be a beautiful colour you see in something out of the window, a special moment you shared with someone, an event you have planned that you are looking forward to.

Have a fun filled spooky weekend.

be creative, be bold, start from within


Thursday, 29 October 2009

Change Your Attitude!

I wanted to touch on something today that I might come back to in the course of time as it could be a pretty big subject, 'Change.' To some people it's almost a swear word - "What do you mean 'Change?!' Me? What for?" - and so on. I had a student once who could not accept the notion of change at all. To her it was the rest of the world that had to change, not her. In her eyes there was nothing at all wrong with her, and so there wasn't necessarily. She was doing the best she could under the circumstances of her life at that time; it's all any of us can do really, until we decide to change.......

Change is not about finding faults in ourselves or others and saying "You need to change!" although it could be and there is nothing wrong with making changes that are for the better. I'm not talking about going to bed one night and waking up in the morning a totally different person. You don't need to change the way you dress, or the colour of your hair, or the music you listen to etc although you may find some of these things happen as a natural occurrence from other changes you make.

The changes I'm talking about are our acceptance of the world and what goes on around us. Changing our attitude around things and, in particular, changing our thought patterns. As humans we often have a habit of plodding along in life; doing the same things day in day out. We walk the same routes, eat the same foods and have a general acceptance of 'well that's how it is.' What I would say to you is change your acceptance of things and change your thought patterns and it could totally change your life!

The changes you make can be very small and subtle but over a period of time, if applied continually and built on, it will be amazing how much of an impact they could have on your life. Start by doing things differently: walk or drive a different route to work/the shops/a friends/back home at the end of the day; change the layout of the furniture or the ornaments; change what you do at lunch time (if you eat lunch at your desk, get up and go for a walk - leave the building!); change your routine as much as you can.

The reason for all this? It will change your perspective on things. You will interact with different people. You will see things you would not ordinarily see. And the impact is that it will set your brain in motion to look at things differently. Once your brain gets active on viewing things from a different perspective, it becomes fun. The brain gets very busy and starts to challenge and question things that you have always taken for granted and quite often, things that you have really struggled with loose their serious hold and you can accept them in a lighter vein and perhaps even for what they are. Quite often 'things' are not as bad as we first thought, life can be a lot less serious, we just need to change our acceptance or perspective.

Take this time of the year, we are NOT in winter yet and I get annoyed when I hear so many people winging that we are! It is Autumn, a very important part of the year. It is a time of celebrating all the wonders of nature. It is a time to celebrate that we have the good fortune to have weather conditions that help produce an abundance of food that will sustain us through the cold weather when crops do not grow the same. It is a time to look forward to warm soups and stews, dressing the pumpkin, sparkling dew covered spiders webs. A time to marvel at all the beauty around us as the trees get ready to go to sleep and their leaves turn such magnificent colours.

"Of course it's getting cold, it's Autumn!!!" The world is getting ready for winter! It happens Every year! Are you not used to it by now!!?? You want sun, sun and more sun? Move to Arizona!!

For the majority of us we have clothes that we can layer on to keep warm. We have a roof over our heads in order to stay dry and warm. There is a cooker in the kitchen on which we can prepare a hot meal. What's your problem?? I give thanks very regularly every winter for all of these things and more (that fact that I have a warm bed to get into every night, a warm bath or shower to get clean and, yup, 'warm' me up).

Enjoy the seasons for what they are and for what you can get out of them. A change of attitude around the changing seasons could mean the difference between a warm enjoyable time and a difficult few months.

Be creative; have fun; learn from within.


p.s. If you want to do something really quite unusual, try sleeping upside down and see what that does for your perspective!!! :-)

Saturday, 24 October 2009

Boost Your Mood In Seconds!

A really quick way to boost your mood when you are feeling down? Be grateful! Seriously, it's practicly impossible to stay really low when you start to give thanks or even just think about all the things in life that you are grateful for. No matter how low you are when you start to do this, I gaurentee that within a few minutes you will start to feel better! There may be days when you are so low that the last thing on your mind is how you might be grateful for anything however, just start and you will be amazed.

You might be thinking that there isn't anything that you are grateful for but just think about it for a few minutes..... Or you might be stuck in a place that sees the negative in 'everything' to the extent you can't see the good even in such things as being able to see, hear, taste etc but trust me, persevere. You can stop your mind from answering back with negative comments, yes you can, you just have to tell it to stop and talk even louder about the positive stuff and it will stop. So, for instance, if your mind is saying something like "but if I couldn't taste it would be great because then it wouldn't matter what I ate and that would make life so much easier!" override that with back talk such as "However, think how much I enjoy eating and tasting things such as ?, ?, ?, (replace question marks with your favourite food..) and it would be so sad if I couldn't taste those!"

Just start; the only thing you can do when you want to do something, the only action necessary to change or move forward, is to start.

So how many things are you grateful for today? There are millions of things really if we get right down to it and this exercise can actually take some time up ~ wow, just think what a massive boost of positive energy you will give yourself if you take up 10 or 15 minutes in any day to write down (or think about) all the things that you are grateful for!

Be creative; have fun; start from within.


Thursday, 22 October 2009

Main Aims In Life

To inspire and motivate people to reach inside themselves and find the confidence to be fearless and by so doing, create a world and a life where they can prosper in total contentment, in peace and love.

Artemis is a Goddess and one of the things she stands for is 'reclaiming of the self'. Reaching inside to find the strength to be the real person you are ~ or in particular, the real woman you are.

The majority of people in the world hide behind a front. An image they give themselves that they think will be acceptable to the rest of the world. Their real self stays hidden away inside. I think this is particularly true in Britain where we still have an overhang from the Victorian era when one had to act accordingly!

Acting accordingly is fine and I totally agree that we should behave, have respect for others and use our manners etc however, there is a difference between that and allowing ourselves to be the person we know deep down inside is the real us.

That's the person who has the confidence to say 'no' when they really don't want to do something! That's the person who has the confidence to choose a career that they know they will get total satisfaction out of, even if it means studying for the next five years! That's the person who realises that they don't need thousands in the bank to enjoy life because life is happening all around them every second of every day, if they would only look up and see it......

I want to get as many people as I possibly can thinking, acting, talking and being as positive as they possible can ~ and the sooner the better!!

How I Intend To Do This

By all means at my disposal!

Book me to deliver a Confidence Building and/or Motivational course or workshop; book a Positive Performance Coaching session; listen in to my weekly slot on a local radio station, 102.6fm or via the net at (late lunch with L & L every Thursday 1-3) where I throw in a bit of positivism with a few good tunes; book me for a motivational talk ~ I haven't been called 'Inspirational' for nothing!!

"What the world needs..."

"Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." Howard Thurman. I love that. Isn't it just great! 'Come alive', do the thing in life that makes you come alive.

I can hear lots of little voices in the background saying things like "yeah, right, if only life was that easy!" "What planet is this woman living on?" "You need a reality check!" etc.

But do you know what? One of the things I am finally coming to realise, thanks to a most amazing guy called Steve Chandler, is that we can actually do the things in life that we really want to do, we just have to have the guts to go and do them!

One of the things that has been coming in and out of my head so often of late is "nothing is any more difficult than what we make it". We make things - life, encounters, relationships, everything - so much more difficult than we need to. Why do we do that??

Well the answer is quite simple really, fear!

And that's where I will pick up next time, maybe.........